Even in Joyless Circumstances

1. Don’t sweat the small stuff
Too often in life we focus on the small things that bother us about life, about other people and about our circumstances. The minute you decide that you no longer going to be affected by these things, life gets more joyful. There should be questions you need to ask yourself. For example, if your husband leaves his dirty socks lying on the floor in the bedroom, is it really worth destroying the peace in your house to fight with him about picking it up? So, your first question should be…will me sweating this thing make my life a lot better or is it going to destroy my peace and the peace in my house or life?

2. Find beauty in everything
We have busy lives and we tend to not notice the beauty around us. We put our heads down and push forward every day. This is why I love photography, it forces me to notice the beauty in everything. See the beautiful sunset or sunrise through the rain clouds, see the butterfly sitting on a flower, see the intricate details on a tree or leaf and smell the roses. Don’t let the beauty of this planet pass you by because it will bring you joy and put you at peace with the world.

3. Show kindness even when you don’t feel like it
I’m not sure if you’ve noticed, but people have become very self-centered these days. They only out for themselves and what you can do for them. Don’t be one of those people. Show kindness even if you don’t feel like it or even if you get nothing in return. It will awaken something inside you. We are made to be kind, it’s one of the fruits of the Spirit. The more kindness you show to others, the more your joy will increase. Don’t expect anything back, just do it because you can.

4. Sing and dance like nobodies around
You can even do it with nobody around if you too shy to do it while there are others around. Let the beat move you. Let it loosen your vocal chords. Sing at the top of your voice, even if you can’t carry a tune. Dance around your house with abandonment, even if you have two left feet. Let your inner self lose. The joy will follow. It will come bubbling up from the well inside of you and you’ll struggle to contain it.

You might also like:
5. Have childlike faith
As humans, we tend to grow up and lose our childlike faith. We don’t look at the world with wonder anymore. We don’t believe like children believe. Have you ever seen a child with Cancer? They are joyful most of the time, they just believe that they will be fine so they continue to have fun and be children. Have you seen an adult with Cancer? They are not the same. They are fearful of what might be…they lose their childlike faith. Don’t let this happen. Believe like a child would believe.

6. Smile with your whole being
I know this sounds silly but trust me…it works. Even if you have nothing to smile about and your circumstances are dismal, put a smile on your face. And not a half-hearted smile. You need to smile with your whole being, it needs to reach your eyes. You will feel silly at first but if you continue to do so for at least an hour, you will notice that you had started to feel joyful without even noticing it.

7. Confess positive statements
In our days we tend to say negative things that affect our lives and minds. Things like ‘it will never get better’ or ‘I will never be good enough’ or ‘life is so bad’. Do these negative statements make your situation any better? Does the stress make it any better? Why don’t you try something different and claim victory over a situation, confess the positive instead of the negative. You will be amazed at the results. Joyce Meyer has a saying that is quite brilliant when it comes to stress, she says, “Stress is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but you not going anywhere.”

8. Cut the drama
If you are a drama queen, then I’m talking to you. Forever having drama, temper tantrums, melt downs and making mountains from molehills makes you a drain on society. I say this with as much love as I can muster but I think you need to know the truth. Drama queens make people tired and they will start trying to avoid you because you are a drain on their energy. A drama queen is a lot of work to deal with and takes a lot of energy to try and keep happy. Change your ways. Be a force for joy, happiness and positivity and even you will feel better.

That’s it from me for now…
Please show me some love and comment below. If you enjoy what you see, please follow me for more features.
Enjoy the moments
(This blog contains affiliate links. As an affiliate, I earn a small commission from qualifying purchases of their products but only when you use my link. Thank you for your support)
Love my content?
You can find more on my YouTube channel.
You can support my blog on Patreon by searching for Patreon/OndeaneLourens.
Faithful to Nature, South Africa’s most loved online health shop was proudly founded in 2007. They get of out bed in the morning thinking about one thing – and that is about how they can help lighten the toxic load on our bodies and our precious Earth. It is their mission to provide an ever-expanding array of natural products to help celebrate choice to live greener lives.
Pingback: Finances in Marriage | Ondeane Lourens
Pingback: Being a Feminist | Ondeane Lourens
Pingback: Being a Caregiver to a Dementia Patient | Ondeane Lourens