If anyone is like me, then you will understand my struggle. I look at all these mommy’s that are really doing well at being a mommy and I drool. They bake with their children and play with Barbie and just simply playing with them a lot. Me on the other hand…I’m not one of those mommies. I was a tomboy so I don’t do the Barbie thing because I feel stupid. I don’t bake in general and it stresses me out, so I don’t bake with the kids either and I rarely played little games with them because the games I knew, were not the ones they wanted to play.
I am the type of mother who teaches my child to stand up for herself, but I will not stand up for her on her behalf (unless it’s against an adult or teacher, then I’ll slam dunk their backsides!). I teach her to be an independent, strong woman who doesn’t need to depend on anyone for anything. I teach her about God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. I gave her make-up tips and I taught her to dance (which is now her passion). I may not be a ‘Mommy’ mommy, but I have made peace with the fact that I’m not perfect and that I’m teaching her other things. (And by the way, she loves baking, so I leave her to it). I used to let her bake and I would sit at a distance and read her the ingredients. I would sit there to make sure she doesn’t hurt herself, but I would interfere because I am slightly OCD and don’t like a mess, so I would drive her crazy with cleaning while she’s baking, so I would sit at a distance and not see the mess (haha).
I think too often we beat ourselves up as mothers to be the perfect little mommies that society wants us to be and not all of us have that luxury. I think that’s why the movie ‘Bad Moms’ did well because it resonates with mothers everywhere. We feel that we should be this mother that runs around after our children allowing them to do what they want and telling them to ‘use their words’ when they throw tantrums and basically letting them think that the world owes them and teaching them to be entitled, but we actually do this to the detriment of our children because when they hit the ‘big world’ they going to get the shock of their lives when they realise that the world doesn’t owe them anything and that it will chew you up and spit you out at the first chance it gets.
I enjoy my child and I enjoy hearing how she sees life in general. I allow her to be a drama queen because that’s a teenage thing but she knows that in the world, there’s no place for that. We laugh together, and sometimes we cry together and yes, I still cry when I have to reprimand her harshly about something and when I think about all she’s been through in her life so far and how well she’s come out the other end, but she knows that I love her very much and that I am here for her no matter what. My love does not have any conditions to it and she knows that.
As Kristina Kuzmic has said on her YouTube channel, it’s amazing that we have been able to keep actual little humans alive up to this point and that we should be proud of our achievement. (I have added her YouTube video below that I really enjoyed)
I know a lot of people will not agree with me and that’s okay because we all have our own opinions, but this is my opinion and I hope it helped make a mother out there feel better that she’s not alone.
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